What Is The Connection Between Selfishness And Lack Of Self Confidence?

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I am trying to find information on the internet about selfishness and self confidence.
I know someone who has low self esteem and low self confidence, and they are bringing it on themselves. They can be very selfish with their family but giving to their coworkers and this doesn’t make sense to me.
They lie about the stupidest things, and when they get caught they make the other person look like the bad one.
When they are selfish, their self esteem and confidence go down and they blame everyone around them.
They misunderstand others when they talk, they get angry easy when a family member tries to explain their bad behavior.
They need recognition and gratitude.
Can anyone point me in the right direction to a website that talks about this.
I have seen information of lack of self confidence people not being selfish……but is their something about selfishness and knowing what they are doing is wrong, lowering self esteem and confidence.
Thank you…….any thoughts you have and websites I can look at, are gratefully appreciated…..

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4 Responses to “What Is The Connection Between Selfishness And Lack Of Self Confidence?”

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    Phoenix Quill said:
    Posted: January 6th, 2010

      The pursuit of self interest is the basis of all human behavior.
      Confidence just means you think you are good at the pursuit
      “Selfish” is a VERY poor term.
      It describes anti social behavior that is typically NOT in a persons self-interest.
      The notion that the self can only get what it desires by giving up the desire to get,
      Is the cognitive dissonance that creates the mental toxin know as Liberalism.
      It inability to understand the logic of nature, result in actions that do NOT produce the desired result, or in results that are not consistent with one’s true desires.
      Which in turn erodes confidence.
      To have confidence WITHOUT competence is NOT good.
      The task of education is to create COMPETENCE.
      This in turn creates CONFIDENCE.
      If you just create CONFIDENCE, you get a bunch of idiots in denial creating havoc.

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    thanku said:
    Posted: January 6th, 2010

      I just wanted to mention that searching for coherence in human behavior could be very frustrating. My advice to you is to try to avoid people whose attitudes for some reason or other affect you, or if you cannot entirely avoid them expect the behavior and work around it or develop techniques for doing so. It may take some experimenting with the person in question, but once you see what works best with him/her, keep doing it.

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    Chris said:
    Posted: January 6th, 2010

      What’s wrong with this website to find those answers? One part, well you have backwards. when they are selfish thier esteem goes down… Self esteem doesn’t go up or down. You either got it or you don’t. People with low esteem and confidence are selfish because they don’t believe in themselves, have no confidence that they’re gonna be able to sustain themselves from one period of time to the next. I know that I will never go hungry, even if I have no money.

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    *RED* said:
    Posted: January 6th, 2010

      …each is displayed in an egotistical individual…

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